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Mothers Day Plea

 

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    I try not to give sermons on this blog (even though I do it all the time in real life) but I want to write a Mothers day plea. I am hoping this does not apply to any of you ladies but I know to many who do not get the pampering they need on Mothers day. It is usually because they do not ask for it, they do not plan for it. You know if you have a dream, it does not happen without some work and since most hubbies can not read our minds (well I know mine can't) we have to ask for what we want. We have to know what we want, we have to make it a priority.

    I will probably not be having my mothers day this weekend. It will be pushed off util next weekend (I take a whole weekend by the way, not just Sunday!) We do not have the money. Not that I need a lot but we do not have any money until pay-day. I could just suck it up and say "oh it is no problem" but that really would not be true. I would rather wait and  do it right. If I had to wait a month I would.

    I do it not just to be pampered (although I really like that part) but I do for my girls. When they grow up and (hopefully) are mothers, I do NOT want them to suck it up. I want them to feel honored, I want them to feel loved and I want them to get a break. How I live says much more to my girls, then what I say.

    So I have a dream, I have a plan. Before Mothers day I will make sure the fridge has something yummy in it for me, I will have a stack of mags. for me to read in bed, I will have let hubby know what I would like. Which will probably be a picnic somewhere and go look at a few antique stores.

    Why I am telling you all this? If you always put yourself on the back burner on Mothers day, please not do it this year. For your sake, for you hubbies sake, for your children's sake, have a dream, make a plan and ask for what you need. And if you need to wait a couple of weeks until you can do it, please do xox

    By the way this is a picture of me and hubby. David is carrying any goodies I find on the beach. He know I will shop anywhere I can ;-)

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thepinkkitchen

Clarice, I love this picture of you and your hubby. You look like two teenagers in love! :)

I loved what you said about how you live says more than what you say. That is so true and something we shouldn't forget.

I was thinking of you this evening as I put my son to bed. He wouldn't go to sleep until he had his sword tucked in with him. You are such a good friend!

LA xo

karen

This is so true. As a mom to 2 young men, I have found that I need to speak up about my needs as a mom. I don't want or need anything but I want their time. Time spent together doing something as a family. They always used to shop, make and clean up dinner for me on Mom's day, but that just can't happen anymore with them living away from home So like you the exact date isn't important, it's the getting together to celebrate whenever we can. Hugs to you and sharing something so very very important.

Darlene

WHAT AN INTERESTING POST ON MOTHERS DAY. I'M ONE OF THE OLDER MOMS, WITH GROWN CHILDERN AND GRANDCHILDERN, AND HOW I LONG FOR THE DAYS WHEN KIDS WERE LITTLE AND MONEY WAS TIGHT. IT WILL PASS, IT ALWAYS DOES, BUT THE MEMORIES OF HANDMADE CARDS, SLIGHTLY WILTED PLANTS,THINGS MADE FROM STICKS AND GLITTER, WILL REMAIN WITH ME ALWAYS,IN THE MOST TENDER AND LOVING PART OF MY HEART.LINGER AWHILE AND STROLL THRU THIS PART OF YOUR LIFE,IT DOESN'T GET ANY BETTER THAN TODAY. DARLENE

Jill

Clarice,

Your Mother's Day Post touched my heart. I used to be the Mom that thought Mom's Day was just another day. I didn't really think too much about the day in general.

My husband and son would get me a card and a bouquet of flowers, and I was happy with that then, but now I feel the same as you.

Mother's Day,/day's is indeed a special day and should be spent exactly the way you want to spend it.

I believe your setting a wonderful example rather than rule for your lovely daughters, and it is something they will honor and cherish throughout their life.

My Mother's day treat is going to breakfast with my husband and then spending the morning at the bookstore picking out several good books taking them home and indulging myself with some peaceful reading.

Wonderfu soulful post Clarice...

Jill 00

tongue in cheek

That is the perfect mother's day advice; giving and receiving for the sake of your children. That is a good example to set.

Mrs. X

Great pic!!! Looks like a fun place to shop for baubles... I've done my fair share of beach-combing and never tire of it. Hope all your dreams for Mother's Day unfold as planned.

Debbie

So right about setting an example for our children. Thanks Clarice!

Lady Laurie

Dear Clarice,
Thank you for this very thought provoking post. Our children do indeed learn from how their Mom and Dad treat each other. My hubby comes from a family where nothing is a big deal, not birthdays, anniversaries, Mother's or Father's Day. Sad really. My hubby has learned over the years how important these days are and how much they mean and to let our children fuss over us and that we fuss over them.
My hubby usually cooks dinner on Mother's Day and my youngest will bake me a cake ~ my kids always make me a homemade card ~ tradition, and I wouldn;t have it any other way. We have had lots of practice on being broke until next payday, living a military life.


I hope you have a lovely Mother's Day Clarice, sending you lots of hugs!

Gumbo Lily

Clarice,
I love where you shop. If I had a beach, I'd shop there too. I have a prairie to shop tho!

I like your post on Mother's Day. I'm not so good about asking for special treatment on Mother's Day, but there are other days when my family is wonderfully generous and sweet to me.

It's true, our children will store in their minds what they see happening within their family for future reference. They need to see us truly loving one another.
~Jody

Mrs.Staggs

I hope you have a Happy Mother's Day every day Clarice!
Thank you for the info on the recipe...I'm often thought really odd, because I don't like salmon. Seems most everyone I know, does and I've eaten it many a time to keep from hurting people's feelings.

Mizsmoochielips

Oh my goodness! I was just telling a sweet girl today how we must teach others how to treat us.

I will probably not have a Mother's Day this weekend either as my husband is away on a mission. And if he is to come home in time for Mother's Day, he'll be exhausted, unpacking and repacking for another mission. Ahhhh the joys of military marriages!

I'm ok with that though. I really am. My babies will probably bring me cold toast with too much butter, milk (which I despise) and a dandylion in bed and that will be perfection.

Clarice, you can just tell the world that you're such an awesome mother, you get to celebrate it twice in one month! Won't you be the envy of the neighborhood.

char

What a great post. I circled some jewlery I want for mothers day and put it on his desk. Char

char

What a great post. I circled some jewlery I want for mothers day and put it on his desk. Char

Gypsy Purple--Chamara

Great post!!!!

Mary

I love the pic, Clarice! It's absolutely lovely.

I think you were absolutely right in pointing out to us all that we need to make sure we're not taken for granted, on any day. Whatever way you choose to celebrate motherhood, however you live your life, you're totally correct in that our children will model their behavior on ours, so it's vital that we recognize our own self worth.

Kelli

This is a wonderful post, Clarice! I don't expect Phillip to read my mind and he appreciates when I tell him how I would like to be pampered. It takes alot of pressure off of him and everyone is happy!
I just love the pictures of you and your hubby on the beach!
Kelli

Joanne

You are so right on! Thanks for the reminder!
I hope you get spoiled and pampered by your family! You deserve it!
Love Ya!
Joanne

jennifer Paganellli

It really and truly is my day...As a new mom I had such guilt about mother's day it should be with the kids and as they got older I realized I wanted Mother's day to be about me but let me tell you something about kids they'd rather I design the perfect day (flea Market) cause they know how happy it makes me...Great post Clarice

jennifer Paganellli

It really and truly is my day...As a new mom I had such guilt about mother's day it should be with the kids and as they got older I realized I wanted Mother's day to be about me but let me tell you something about kids they'd rather I design the perfect day (flea Market) cause they know how happy it makes me...Great post Clarice

darla

Great post Clarice and on something I feel strongly about.

So many times people expect others to be mind readers. When asked what they want they ay "Oh nothing " or "Don't make a fuss". When all they time they really do want some attention paid.

We usually want something within reach... for me with grown daughters all I want is some time with them.

So ask for what you want, and if you say "oh nothing" then don't act like a victim when NOTHING is what you get.

Darla - who seems to have hijacked your comments section for a rant. Sorry.

Kristin

I love that you are thinking ahead for the sake of your daughters. And for those of us who have sons, it's also a great idea to model to them long before they have wives of their own.

Also--I think I know what beach this is : )

Rosemary

Hi,
I love your ideas for Mother's Day.
I already told my husband that I want to go to the Rose Bowl Flea Market, which is hot and crowded. Then I want to go to a special pizza place. I try not to eat too much pizza, so I figured it is Mother's Day and I can. My daugher, her fiance and my mom will come along.
Have a great Mother's Day!
Rosemary

karla nathan

wonderful thoughts on Mothers Day.

Susan in Texas

Hi Clarice,

It has been so long since I had a chance to visit your site and it looks really beautiful. I like the new to me format. This will be our first Mother's Day without my Mother, but she is in heaven praising God and for that I am thankful. One of my nieces and her husband (who does all the cooking in their house and really enjoys it) are going to cook for us (my sister's and I) this Sunday. And they are going to do the clean-up. I think I will buy myself some nice dark chocolate and a couple of new magazines; thanks for that idea.

Susan

Susan

What a wonderful post, Clarice!!! Us moms always put ourselves second (as it should be most days) but every now and then we need some pampering, whether it be on Mother's Day or another of our choosing. At T-Party, we have some disappointed folks who want us to be open this Sunday for Mother's Day (though we're not even open on Sundays). But we're moms, too, and we know how important it is to take a break and relax with one's family. Lovely picture of you and your hubby. Beach combing is one of my favorite pastimes!

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